The media always has an opinion on love, in movies, literature and even social media. Does that influence how we define love?
I thought he was the love of my life.
What I thought was love
If you read my last post, you have a general understanding of what happens when you meet someone new, especially someone you find attractive. First impressions have been found to be very important in our interactions, too. If this first impression was a good one, your initial feelings of excitement and happiness will want to continue. But if it was a bad one, you really hope to never see that person again.
Now, I've had many experiences where I've chosen to continue and pursue someone.. have they been the best decisions of my life? Yes and no.
Let me tell you a little story.
Several years ago I met who I thought was the love of my life. He had the perfect built, hair, intelligence, and obviously many other things that kept me with him for the 3 years we were together. Our first connection was AMAZING. Our first date was FIRE. My dopamine levels were clearly up the roof. Naturally of course for the first few months I was on an emotional high, and definitely I thought I was in love. Now maybe I was, maybe I wasn't - I still have yet to decide that. But what happened next, for sure surprised me.
He was a hard worker, busy in school, and had his own life before I walked in so gracefully. After the first few months, my attraction toward him didn't fade but other challenges arose. I started finding little things that I didn't agree with, our morals weren't always aligned, and the way we dealt with stress and conflict was completely opposite. I found myself trying to adjust to his ways and eventually found that I couldn't.
The area of my brain, constituting logic and reasoning was slowly becoming more active, and my dopamine levels were beginning to normalize. He was no longer the newest object of my affection, but rather someone I was just with. Where the hell was my logic and reason when I needed it?
Point of my story is, was that initial reaction I had towards him something I define as love, or was it simply lust?
Challenge of the day
Tell me about an interaction you had that didn't last, or about one that did.
What did you take from it?
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