Figure yourself out...or start to.

Being who you are and true to yourself is hard in a society that tells us how to live our lives.

From "You Do You", by Sarah Knight

There's many things you might go through that challenge your sense of self and cause - what I referred to as in my last post - inner conflict. For those of you who aren't caught up, inner conflict is when your mind is torn between what you think you should do, and what you want to do.

Basically life's daily gift to us, cause it's not hard enough as it is...

ANYWAYS, back to it, my girl Sarah Knight, author of "The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck", "You Do You", and "Get Your Shit Together", has designed a simple beginner's step to figuring out who you are.

DON'T BE ALARMED! Figuring yourself out can seem super overwhelming but these tips and tricks will help start your journey of self-discovery.

*all proceeding information is taken from "You Do You", I do not own any of this information - just sharing some wise words!*

Okay Sarah, so Mario Kart was in your example, but I'm going to use a different one, for originality's sake. How many of you have played Need for Speed? Well if you haven't, basically the point of the game is to complete races to unlock new levels. So when you first load it up, you get a choice of vehicle. First your decision might be simple, do you want automatic or manual transmission? But continuing from that, there are different cars with various strengths and weaknesses. The 5 distinct car classes include:

1. Race - high speed action, foot to the floor

2. Drift - cornering specialist, great at putting it sideways

3. Off-road - go beyond the tarmac for an all-terrain adventure

4. Drag - the straight line wheelie puling monster

5. Runner - get the job done, no questions asked

Each car under the class available (you must win levels to unlock new cars) has it's own specs, including top speed, 0-60 time, and quarter mile time. An alternative choice you have eventually is to build your own car, collect car parts to add to your vehicle, or purchase modifications. Now, which category best describes what you want? In her book, Sarah took some time to ask readers what their personal strengths and weaknesses are. I'm going to do the same, write them down for yourself!

Okay, so now that you have a few down, which you naturally will, which car did you pick?

We're not done yet though.

Next step of the game is to pick a race track. You can race by the beach, or in the city, in a circuit race (closed course), or sprint race (open course). Now as Sarah Knight asked in her example, what is your ideal world? Do you want an easy oval track, or one with lots of twists and turns? Jot your ideas down on a scrap piece of paper.

Alright, now you should have a general idea of how these steps work in the two-dimesional world of Need for Speed, but what happens in the real world? Sarah mentions two points (You Do You, pg. 28, 2017):

• When you're faced with real-life decisions that impact your real-life happiness, do you plot your own course, design your own [car], and play to your strengths? Or do you go with the computer-assigned role?

• Do you feel comfortable, safe, and confident in your choices? Or are you just hoping to squeak by in the middle of the pack without getting run off the road by a [souped up porche]?

The choice is up to you.

If you're interested to hear some more from Sarah Knight, check out this link here.

Challenge of the day

Write down your strengths and weaknesses and figure out how they are positive things rather than negative. If you decided not to go to a party cause you really want to watch Netflilx, you're leaving extra booze and snacck foods for the other party-goers. Silly example, but you get it! Tell me what you think!